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Most of us who call ourselves Christians want to be men and women of faith. Do we really understand what that means? Have we considered what it looks like and feels like to live by faith and not by sight? I certainly cannot put myself out...

Does it often feel like you’re the one who gives more than the other person in your relationships? Does your attempt at giving look like putting the other person’s needs, wants and desires above your own? In your giving, do you eventually get to the...

If someone were to ask you - “From where do you get your sense of identity - your sense of security in who you are?” How would you answer them? What would you say? It’s an insightful question that many of us don’t take the...

It’s natural to think that all pain is a bad thing. But is it really? I would propose that it depends on the way you look at it, because pain can actually be a “gift in disguise.” Let’s be real, pain in any form is uncomfortable...

These three false beliefs and expectations will steal from any relationship and may cause you to miss a potential marriage relationship. How are you doing in these areas? 1. Thinking Emotions Are Truth We all want to feel butterflies and excitement about our potential spouse. Heightened feelings...

Silence Used to Be Golden The generation of my parents placed a high value on “being strong” and dealing with problems internally rather than quickly talking and sharing with others when they are troubled.  The “strong silent type” was a very attractive characteristic to that generation,...

When Hurt, Say “No” to Blame and Accusation When feeling hurt in a relationship, it can be so easy to resort to blaming and accusing the other person as a way of trying to force the listener to empathize with our pain. Unfortunately, what we accomplish...

When having a conversation with someone, do you tend to actively listen and respond to what they are saying, or are you already thinking of what you want to say once their “turn” is up? Listening and Responding Vs. Formulating a Response The goal of effective communication...

How many times have we heard that communication is the key to relationships? Many, many times I’m sure. The only problem is everyone has a different idea of what communication is. How do we know if we are using the type of effective communication that...