Q & A: How Do You Know When a Guy Is Interested in You?
Q: How do you know when a guy is really interested in you as a person vs. only truly interested in getting sexual needs met?
A: Keep your boundaries, especially your physical boundaries. Give the relationship a chance to build from connection, communication, and intimacy rather than physical/sexual needs being met. When you experience real intimacy without anything sexual it’s much easier to see the other person’s heart and motives as well as see your own feelings about the relationship. If they keep trying to push the boundaries from day one and don’t have self-control then that would definitely be an issue needing to be addressed. If a man or woman can’t respect your boundaries while you’re dating by choosing what’s best rather than living out of impulse, I wouldn’t expect much to change when you get married.
When you start to feel comfortable with them and connect with them on a stronger level then you’ll let down your guard and be able to show them how you truly feel without worrying that they are only there for one thing. Despite this ‘thing’ being something that can be a big part of a relationship, it is important to both know each other’s boundaries in this respect. Some couples may use female pheromones to help with attraction and intimacy, especially as the relationship progresses, but that will need to be discussed first to see if that is the right thing to use with their other half. Relationships are meant to be the start of something new and exciting, however, if they are showing you that they are not respecting you for you, then you are going to need to cut that off for the sake of your mental and emotional health. You want to be with someone who understands you and doesn’t make you want to pull away.
by Brendon Byrne