LAM Testimony: “I’ve Never Felt So Connected With My Husband”
“I came to Love After Marriage with very little in the way of expectations. I had a slight hint of what it may look like since I’d done Single Life Workshop in 2013 (in Redding). My wife and I were chosen as group facilitators, much to her concern (she didn’t want to miss a breakthrough). Our main goal in coming to LAM was to pick up tools, specifically to help our communication. After the first or second day, my wife came to me in tears because she felt like the group got the best of me, and she only got the scraps. ‘Why can’t you show me the love, care and compassion that you show those in the group?’ was her question. I was gutted and had to reconcile with her and ask her forgiveness (using the tools from the workshop).
By the fourth day, we’d seen amazing breakthrough and healing for the other two couples, but I felt like I was missing something. After asking Holy Spirit why I was feeling that way, He reminded me that I had expectations of breakthroughs looking like they did when I went to Single Life Workshop. The lie was, ‘If I’m not sobbing, I’m not getting a breakthrough.’ He helped me see that the breakthrough I got was the ability to lead/facilitate this group, as well as using the tools to communicate with my wife in a healthy way, when I would have shut down in the past. This has been one of the most life-giving workshops I’ve done. I’ve faced fears, learned to listen to Holy Spirit, and my connection with my wife is deeper than I’ve ever experienced. We were able to hear God for our future and invite God into our love making for the first time in our marriage. We’ve never felt so connected! Thank you so much for all you do!” – LAM Husband
“The Lord has unlocked deeper levels of trust and understanding and connectedness throughout this Love After Marriage workshop. I came in still carrying effects of fear and abandonment from my past, which was impacting my ability to feel emotionally safe and fully trust my husband. I had a difficult time feeling free and moving past the things that caused me to re-experience that trauma, even when I tried. But by using the tools we’ve been given, I’ve been able to identify the lies and spirits I’ve been partnering with. Not only have I been able to work through these things, but my husband has been able to help lead me through this. That in itself was restorative because we haven’t felt spiritual oneness. The Lord also used us leading a group as a catalyst for breakthrough. Through watching my husband lead and pour out so beautifully and so connected to the Lord, I realized I was longing for him to be that same way and so attentive to me. We both realized this was missing in our relationship, and the new pursuit of that, with the tools to do so, has been so very healing. I’ve never felt so connected with my husband, nor have I felt the amount of trust and emotional safety that I do now. We’ve been using the tools that are removing the things blocking our trust and connection. The Lord even gave me a desire of my heart in dancing with my husband! I love dancing, and it’s so connecting for me, while my husband says he’s allergic. Dancing with him made me feel so alive, and he enjoyed it, too. Connecting with him in that way has been so special. Being able to walk away with the new family we gained through this, and through witnessing we are not alone in our struggles, was so refreshing. Experiencing the holiness, tenderness and redemptive power of God to do miracle after miracle in couples’ lives has given me so much hope and boldness and resolve for the Lord’s faithfulness toward marriage.” – LAM Wife